The Excuse-Banishing Diet to Shrink Your “BUT”
by Michael S. Tyrrell
September 21, 2021
Hey there Wholetonians!
Are you carrying around the excess weight of your unreached goals and potential? You know what those are…they’re often the things you think about and say, “If only,” or “I should’ve” and “I would’ve.” If you were to look closely, you would most likely find one word in the midst of every unreached goal or un-started project:
We can always find a reason not to take action; and our reasons will sound, well, perfectly reasonable. The truth is, your “reasons” probably aren’t reasons at all. They are probably just excuses.
Isn’t it amazing how we can talk ourselves out of almost anything that has the potential of exposing our fears, our perceived weaknesses, or that will push us out of our predictable little comfort zones? Many of us are experts at creating excuses for ourselves. Most of us interchange reasons with excuses. However…
A Reason Is Not The Same As An Excuse
Reasons are true and factual. They are logical, verifiable, consistent and often unavoidable. Example: The flight was delayed because the wings had to be de-iced.
Excuses, on the other hand, are false and unverifiable. They are illogical, inconsistent and avoidable. They’re often just a “feeling” or a “blaming.” Example: His excuse for overeating was that his wife served too much food on his plate.
“Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure” ~ Don Wilder
Now that we know the difference between a reason and an excuse, let’s take a look at what some of your excuses might look like:
- I’m going to start taking better care of myself BUT my life is too busy right now.
- I’m going to start walking in the mornings BUT it’s still too cold out…maybe in the Spring.
- I’m going to write a book, BUT I don’t have time.
- I’m sure that works for others BUT I’m not smart enough, young enough, old enough, ______ enough.
Get the picture?
Here’s an Excuse-Free Diet to help shrink your “BUT”
- Recognize your excuses. As with any bad habit, the first step to dealing with the problem is to recognize and acknowledge it.
- Be honest with yourself. Making up excuses is basically just lying. As we discussed above, excuses are not the same as reasons.
- Avoid comparing yourself with others.
- Stop focusing on your current circumstances, and start focusing on what you want to accomplish.
- Never use the word “never.” Okay, let me rephrase that! Stop saying, “I could never do that” when it comes to taking positive steps toward the changes you want to make. You will believe what you tell yourself! Remember words have power!
- Believe you can with God’s help, then ACT upon it. Faith is activated with action.
- Accept full responsibility for failures and mistakes. Excuses are often made because we simply don’t want to take responsibility for our shortcomings. When we take full responsibility for all failures and mistakes we no longer build upon luck or good fortune, but rather on our ability to make the necessary corrections.
I hope this “diet” helps to shrink down your excuses and “buts”!
Until next time…
Michael S. Tyrrell
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